Sometimes Expectations are Unexpected

Lets rewind little bit


Many times we feel disheartened with our family, friends, colleagues, superiors, subordinates etc... for one are the other reason. 


But when we observe closely, we find something strange, something we cannot accept, something we never EXPECTED......!!!!


Then what is it????


Yes, many times we fail to fulfill the EXPECTATIONS of our dear ones and results in quarrel, dishearten.


This is the situation, where both are right but still we end up quarrellings.


We always cannot expect the expectations of other person.


That's why I called " Expectations are Unexpected"


Now we started thinking. Is there any solution for this? 


Lets take an example of a couple. 


Wife expects her husband to reach home early and spend time with her, take her out to have road side chats are something which looks to be small. But she expects all this things to be done by her husband voluntarily.


But husband his working hard to earn money to take his wife to north India trip for their wedding anniversary.


In this situation both are innocent and their expectations are 100% valid.


But still they quarrel every eve for coming late or not going to shopping bla bla.


Then where is the gap...


Their is a gap between them that is COMMUNICATION GAP.


In this case, its better that husband to know what are her expectations... and to explain her what is his expectations


Lets take another example.


A son expects his father to present him a new bike but not cycle for his coming birthday. 


But father presents him a cycle for his birthday, due to his financial commitments.


Now son is upset!!!!!


Here, son should have expected less, if he gets cycle then he will be happy that he got something for his birthday. If he gets bike, then he will be delighted..... 


So expect less and get delighted...


These examples are just examples, I told you to rewind in the beginning,  now who might have come across... many real time situations similar to these examples...


Plan your actions and delight yourself and others....


If you have expected more from this post, I am sorry, sometimes " Expectations are Unexpected"


Urs


Jeevan